Did you ever notice that many of us interact with our own thinking as though it’s the only way to think? We get angry when others do not respond as quickly, or kindly, or as slowly as we think they should. I’ve even had one person say to me, "Don’t you have any common sense?" because I disagreed with him. And, we rev up our engines of righteousness when we read between the lines and make up what we think people mean by their half-written email or lack of responses to our reaching out. But if we slow down enough to ask the other person what they mean, nine times out of ten, they got interrupted in writing their response, or had their own reaction to our words, or wanted to call us but didn’t think they had the time necessary for a conversation that would resolve all issues, or their plate is just too full to take on one more thing right now.

Maybe we all need to take a step back and strive for compassion and our own willingness to forgive. Maybe when we truly reach out (even if only energetically) to another person, with a pure intention of relatedness, all other obstacles melt away. All we need to do is think the thought, "this could be resolved and I value the other person enough to make it worth my while to start the conversation" and a mountain will move out of our way!

Don’t think you can say the words yet, but find you really would like to resolve a communication snafu? Then just start by imagining giving the person a flower. That’s it! In your mind’s eye, hand them a flower and continue to intend on having your relationship grow and find a happy medium or better.